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We didn’t start IVF because we were trying for a long time.

We started because of something that already happened.

Both of us are carriers of thalassemia. We didn’t fully understand what that could mean at the beginning. We conceived naturally once, and for a while, everything felt normal.

Until it wasn’t.

After further checks, we found out the baby had a severe form. We were told what that could mean long term, and we had to make a decision we never thought we would face. We chose to end the pregnancy.

That experience stayed with us longer than anything else.

So when we started thinking about trying again, it didn’t feel like a simple “try one more time” situation. We knew there was a chance the same thing could happen. Maybe not, but we didn’t know how to carry that uncertainty again.

When we spoke to the doctor, IVF was brought up as an option. Not as a guarantee, just as a way to have more information before moving forward.

We went home and talked about it properly.

It wasn’t really about whether we could try naturally again. It was about whether we were willing to go through the same possibility again.

In the end, we decided we weren’t.

So we chose IVF.

Not because it felt easier, but because it felt like the only path where we could move forward without ignoring what we had already been through.